Title: A BONZA LIFE
Author: Brian Murphy
Publisher: Aurora House
The ‘baby boom’ of the mid-twentieth century was the catalyst for dramatic change. Changes to tradition, government, societal expectations, war and peace, education, the arts, sciences and culture would conquer the world over the next 50 years.
Brian Murphy lived an average Boomer life in Brisbane, Australia, with his stay-at-home mum, his returned WW2 soldier dad, and his five siblings. Life was simple back then, with few pressures. But as Brian grew older, he craved exploring the world outside, and eventually ventured out into the unknown with his Boomer friends.
This was a period of history that arguably allowed Boomers the opportunity to achieve more as a group than any previous generation.
A period of stability, general world peace, free education, liberal thinking, and individual achievement.
So how did the average Baby Boomer cope in this changing world? How did it affect their everyday lives? What hurdles did they have to overcome?
Baby Boomer advocate, Brian Murphy, answers these questions and shines a light on the lives of the Boomer generation in his debut novel A BONZA LIFE. This book is his life story and shows how he adapted to a changed world and how he became involved in improving the working lives of fellow Baby Boomers.
A BONZA LIFE is an educational and inspiring read for anyone looking to learn more about the Boomer generation and how they’ve adjusted to this changing world.
Get your copy now from either Amazon or Booktopia.
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Are you a Baby Boomer in Australia or New Zealand?
Are you researching the Baby Boomers?
What is a baby boomer?
The post-World War II generation known as Baby Boomers is a
multi-national birth cohort totaling roughly 88 million, within the
populations of Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and the United
States (I call this group of four the CANZUS nations). The birth
years of this generation vary slightly among the four nations, so
the definitions of Baby Boomers I have used in my studies are as
follows: born in the United States, between 1946 and 1964 (75
million); born in Canada, between 1946 and 1966 (8 million);
born in Australia, between 1945 and 1963 (4 million); and born
in New Zealand, between 1945 and 1963 (1 million)- Dr Thomas E Muller
Australia's numbers have increased to over 5 million through immigration.
What is BONZA? (Baby Boomers of NZ & Australia)
BONZA is an information site or lifestyle magazine for Baby Boomers.
We want all Boomers to plan for their future and support each other.
More than 20 000 thousand Australian Boomers retire each month now (around 240 000 per year) so welcome to Ageing Australia.
What can we do for ourselves if we are a Boomer to prepare for life after work?
This site will give you the information you need to change your life.
" Who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”- Theodore Roosevelt 1910
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"We wake up each day with problems and it is how we face those problems that makes our life".
The Meaning of Life by Viktor Frankl
IS it ever too late to learn?
Apparently not as I have been asked to share with you by a young gen, the stories of those who started their dream later in life.
Here is the first of many stories, this one about of a 57 year old who decided to become a racing driver.
My thanks to Blaire Aramenko for her energy and drive-Ed
I just wanted to let you know that Episode 1 of the At Any Age video series is now live!
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Quick refresher: At Any Age follows inspirational men and women who are challenging themselves with activities normally reserved for younger folks. Episode 1 follows Dean Neuls as he competes in the Porsche GT3 Car Racing series against men half his age!
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A message from the Director of the Office for Seniors in NZ thanking BONZA for our submission. The document Better Later Life is a real beauty. They have a great plan now for NZ SuperSeniors. Hope OZ can do the same soon. -Ed Brian Murphy www.bonza.com.au
Thank you very much for your feedback on our draft strategy Better later Life: He Oranga Kaumātua 2019 to 2034.
We had a great response, receiving a total of 230 written submissions, many of which were on behalf of organisations and community groups. The feedback was incredibly useful with a wide range of responses from around the country.
We have prepared a summary of the submissions which is now available on the SuperSeniors website.
We are currently finalising the new strategy and will email you when it is launched and available on the SuperSeniors website - this is expected to be towards the end of the year.
We thank you for your contribution and look forward to launching the new strategy later in the year.
Till Death Do Us Part
Swedish death clean is a not so common process in Australian culture but it is the process of disposing of your possessions before you die. Our possessions are like our relationships and particularly marriage when some of us promised loyalty until death do us part. I have hobbies and material possessions from my youth, a drawer full of paperwork that is relevant only to me, and containers of important milestones of my life in the closet and all of it will be gone before I go if I can possible do it.
All the furniture can be sold, money dispersed, and my photos and awards dumped so I feel organised. How are you feeling about your possessions and are you organised?
I upset a relative of mine recently when she managed to have a container load of her mother’s memories delivered to her home. There was enough stuff to completely take up the entire length beneath her raised home and then some more moved into the house. We are talking a lot of memories here as her mother was a hoarder and collected items from her own mother’s past plus the hobbies of her late husband who was a photographer and handyman.
Her mother was also an artist of some talent, so the paintings, frames and creative bits and pieces came to with the furniture from an entire home. Crockery, her old cot, diorama of a tall ship, a complete history of furniture from the eighties and nineties, old ports, plant stands, vases and much more. You get it, the whole house was there on display and it was quite fascinating checking it all out as a lot of it should have been in a museum.
She was initially overwhelmed by it all, so I offered to put items for sale on gumtree as she went through the numerous boxes and it was an amazing list of antique and valuable items that were found in her journey of discovery.
Eventually the more valuable items such as recorded cylinder drums and old gramophones from the 1800’s were set aside for further decision making on their likely future placement and the not so valuable stuff separated into boxes downstairs. Most of the furniture went cheaply on gumtree and it was during this process that I realised what value this had to my relative. She was not happy with just moving it on but wanted top price where possible which is a much longer process.
My only dealings with the belongings of my past was my mum’s possessions which the family agreed at the time to take one item each as a memento and sell or dispose of the rest. I also use gumtree to move any items no longer of use currently, so I was keen to sell these newly acquired op shop destined items.
Three quarters of the items have now been sold, dumped or given away but my relative is now suffering regrets that she didn’t take longer in the process and may have given away items that could have been items of value to her.
Maybe we all need to decide what we want to leave behind for our family’s and either give it to them now or sell before we go to the other side if we can, so we don’t cause our loved ones the stress my poor relative is suffering from through no fault of her own-Ed
For the Times They are a Changin
What an interesting old world we live in today with such easy access to online media and information. Here I am on wet Easter Sunday contemplating life and upgrading my BONZA blogs when the enormity of how quickly the modern world changes hits me.
Back in the day when I was younger, I was kept ignorant of most positive messages because you had to seek the written word. Pictures were also few and far between and I indulged myself of a picture frenzy by visiting a local library. Today I am subjected to numerous pictures of world events from the burning of Notre Dame to the rather sad picture attached to this article of Santa being crucified in some shop window somewhere in the world.
Just as the killing of Muslims whilst praying in Christchurch appalled me, so does this picture which is on my phone on a holy day for all Christians. I think spirituality is a necessity of life to give us hope and faith and a purpose in life and even though I am restricted to my own region (a universal one where I will always do the right thing in life), I believe that this photo would offend many people.
Having got that off my chest I will also impart on you some good news for me about health. I am trying particularly hard to keep fit through yoga and walking and healthy through my food type input and smaller portions of meals so when I read today that certain types of healthy foods I have been eating are not necessarily so, then I know the times are a changin rapidly. How quickly it turns around.
Let me explain further. I have been eating nuts, beans, rye bread, tomatoes, eggplant and capsicum with many other foods but today I am informed that all these have too many lectins (you need some but not a lot) in them which are not good for your gut. Definition is below.
“Lectins may impact health in multiple ways, ranging from digestion to chronic disease risk. They have been shown to cause red blood cells to cluster together.
They are categorized as antinutrients since they block the absorption of some nutrients.
Lectins may cause an upset stomach when plant foods are eaten uncooked. They are also the reason why it can be dangerous to eat undercooked legumes.
The lectin in red kidney beans is called phytohemagglutinin. It is responsible for red kidney bean poisoning, which results from eating raw or undercooked kidney beans. According to the United States Food and Drug Administration (FDA), consuming just four raw kidney beans could cause symptoms including severe nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea.”
So, there you go. Obviously, they weren’t the only foods I have been eating but out they go.
To top it off, the same site tells me that antibiotics are the curse of the world if taken constantly and can kill the good bacteria in your stomach for up to 2 years. I try to say no but I don’t get sick much since taking Nasonex for my nose each day which cuts off the bad flow of germs from the source in my nostrils to my throat and then to the chest so no cough or chest infections when the seasons change.
No doubt you have your own likes dislikes, wants and needs but just make sure that you keep updated as the times are changing rapidly.
Reflections of an Anxious Boomer… First Year of Retirement
Is retirement easy for Boomers?
I was never comfortable with retirement and did so with some anxiety as the retirees of my youth had quickly disappeared into God’s waiting room and were never seen again in my eyes. But times have changed and I did retiree with trepidation but without fanfare 12 months ago.
So what has the first 12 months been like? The first thing that is worth noting is the time it takes Centrelink to process your Age Pension application. Their argument is that some 20 000 Boomers retire now each month in Australia so that is a huge increase in workload compared to the Silent generation before us so I waited not so patiently for nearly 2 months for a decision even though it is back paid to application date.
It is also worth noting that the local Centrelink office is absolutely in the dark with your application and nothing you do will make it go faster at that office as it is processed in age pension land somewhere else nor does the complaints line or the internet make any difference although it is good to vent when you are frustrated. I eventually contacted the Minister’s office and had it approved within a couple of days. I felt a little guilty about this approach but I had no income and anyway, why aren’t more workers hired if the work load has increased?
So make sure you apply before your birthday so it is well on the way when you are eligible. It is also worth remembering that you should make an appointment with the Financial Services Officer for a free interview about your eligibility for pension as they have great knowledge that will be helpful to you as an individual.
Those retirees of my youth that I previously mentioned all died fairly quickly from my recollection and I am a great believer that their death was from a feeling of rejection and accompanying ageism that killed them off before 70 on average.
We are doing much better with the average death age now over 80 so we can look at life on retirement as virtually a second coming. I have a life in retirement and work 3 days a week for 2 hours each day which gives me purpose and income for coffee and breakfast on the weekend at the local café.
Also keeps me fit which is the next topic in my year of reflection. The gym 2 mornings a week for toning not body building works well and a healthier lifestyle which includes a different approach to food. Forget sugar if you can as I have been able to maintain a 12 kilo weight loss by eating vegetarian food and have enjoyed it thoroughly so keep an open mind about food.
I also walk each day and surf when I can plus some bike riding which is all very enjoyable. Our walks are either local, beach, hinterland or designated ones like the Milford Track which was just incredible.
My finances were the next anxiety and I have been able to live off the interest of my superannuation combined with pension and work income as mentioned previously very comfortably while retaining the principle super amount. I have a travel account and the generous interest on super goes into that 50% and the rest for bills and living so we have been able to have a few holidays.
If you haven’t yet retired then put as much as you can into your super account as it will allow you through generous interest on your contributions to retire with some dignity and maybe even earlier than you thought if you are a young Boomer.
Living is easier for us because we shop for each meal now and therefore have no left overs each week by spending around $150 on food.
My social life has been an improvement to previous work life as I have the time to meet regularly with family and friends for coffee at least one day per week which I love doing. You also get to choose who you want to spend your time with as I find I am less patient with difficult people and do not want to waste my valuable time with them.
I also meet my grandkids on their birthdays and Xmas and that is rewarding as you watch them grow. My children and mostly settled elsewhere and we communicate by phone now as I found texting was non rewarding as things were taken literally even when you were joking so one huge lesson was that.. Use the phone to talk.
I will never be happy being a retiree as Boomers have so much energy and never want to grow old but I will continue editing BONZA, assisting my local councillor with suggesting local change (something he has responded well to) and will keep fit and healthy for as long as I can because none of us can stop the clock so we must make the most of our time we have left.
Enjoy your retirement. I am
Voluntary Euthanasia Submission
Parliament House Qld 4000
To Whom It May Concern
Submission from BONZA in favour of Voluntary Euthanasia.
I am the editor of the Boomer Advocacy web site www.bonza.com.au (Baby Boomers of NZ & Australia) and have been in the role for over 20 years. During that time, I have continually identified the priorities and the beliefs of my generation through one to one meeting, large public gatherings of over a thousand at Expos and Centrelink presentations, emails to the web site from readers and supporters and on-line votes on the web site and therefore have accessed many thousands of them on many issues affecting Boomers including the issue of Voluntary Euthanasia.
Data from the on-going vote on the issue, which is located on the web site, has it as 80% in favour of voluntary euthanasia of hundreds who voted. That figure if projected to all Australian Boomers could mean that 4 million of the 5 million Boomers would agree with voluntary euthanasia which is a resounding yes vote.
It is not an issue that causes great debate among the younger generations in my opinion because they are too busy discovering the wonders of this world of ours, but more of an awakening of human empathy for those who have had to deal with it with family and friends as they approach palliative care due to terminal illness. It takes a great toll on you personally to watch someone you love to die in pain without much human dignity and you have to ask yourself why it couldn’t be different.
Three former Queensland Premiers (Beattie, Bligh and Newman) for instance, have all changed their mind on the subject and are now in favour after witnessing the deaths of their parents as has newspaper columnist Nikki Gemmell who wrote so emotionally about her mother’s suicide in 2015 -
Elayn's "bleak and desperate death" opened Nikki's eyes to the euthanasia debate. The author penned a column for The Australian about the shock, the grief and the overwhelming guilt she felt after her mother's death. "[It] broke our family," she wrote. "I felt skinned, felled by vulnerability and a sense of failure; a danger to myself and others. Was this very modern death empowerment or despair? Selflessness or Selfishness?"
"If only we could have been there, if only we could have held her hand. It could have been so different if we could have just surrounded her with love," Nikki said of her mother's death.
We age, I believe, in three stages.
Stage One: Over 50s who suddenly realise that they are being treated as seniors and are introduced the first time to ageism when they are the brunt of the jokes.
Stage Two: Over 60s who see the finishing post for work and are in a mad rush to gather superannuation. It is about this time for most that their parents start to enter the sick to terminally sick stage and they are responsible for their welfare and the process of their palliative care in many cases.
Stage Three: Over 70s to death when the body is rapidly deteriorating, and friends and siblings are dying around you and you begin to worry about how you will die when your turn comes.
It is in these last stages of life that people become more aware of their mortality and when their health declines then voluntary euthanasia becomes more relevant. We want to die with dignity and not be a burden on society and surely it is our right to decide how to die.
I have no problem with the fact that certain religions would frown on the act but if the majority are in favour then we should make it our own business and make that decision personally without the beliefs of others condemning us to an undignified painful death.
Indeed, what a difference it would make to our society if we could gather our families when we are told no more can be done for our health and enjoy their company one last time before we entered a room for our passing with the assistance of an injection.
The positive memories that process conjures surely far outweighs the ‘dying surrounded by loving family’ scenario that leaves out the agonised and terrified soul in the bed who probably hasn’t uttered a word in days.
Marshall Perron's (Former NT Minister) Open Letter on Euthanasia also moved me and defines the big picture so well.
I believe there is an unrecognised phenomenon in Australia that should be of concern. I refer to the growing incidence of rational suicide by the elderly and the terminally and hopelessly ill. This letter is being sent to all state and Territory coroners to increase awareness of this important issue.
Australia has an ageing society. While lifespans are extending, death itself is increasingly the result of debilitating degenerative disease of mind and body. Medical advances provide for dwindling life to be sustained until medicos allow death to occur. Terminal sedation, the standard response for intractable symptoms, is common and considered undignified. Some people are determined to avoid spending their final months or years as a demented patient.
More and more Australians are rejecting this period of futile suffering and exercising autonomy over their own death. While many such suicides are understandable, I contend that some of them would at least be delayed, or even not eventuate at all, if the victims were able to seek and receive assistance to die from others.
A result of being denied assistance is that many of these deaths are unnecessarily premature, lonely and violent. Premature because the individual has to act while they have the physical and mental capacity. Lonely because the individual is aware that assisting a suicide is an offence and they do not want to implicate family or friends. Violent because they must use whatever means to die they can access. There is a high level of interest in learning how to die peacefully and importing illegal substances to achieve that aim.
I suspect you regularly receive reports of deaths where evidence indicates the individual was terminally or hopelessly ill and considered their life was (or will become) unbearable. Providing the person was competent and acted without coercion from others, the event can be considered to be a rational response to their circumstances.
The number of rational suicides known to individual coroners is certain to be only a fraction of those actually taking place. ABS and other institutions acknowledge that suicide is (and has always been) under- reported for a variety of reasons. One that is particularly relevant in cases where the individual is terminally ill is that death by inhaling inert gas is undetectable if the apparatus used is removed (illegally) before the body is 'discovered'. Death is recorded as being the result of natural causes and as such, not reportable to coroners. There is anecdotal evidence that such disguised deaths occur regularly in Australia.
What we do not know is the number of unsuccessful attempts at rational suicide; cases where the individual botched the process through inadequate investigation, preparation and/or failure of equipment. Having to act alone can be fraught with difficulties.
The vast majority of rational suicide cases are known only to the immediate family. The public, policy makers and politicians are blissfully unaware of the scale of the distress, and will remain so without the official watchdogs, coroners, exposing what is happening behind closed doors.
I contend that when investigating a suicide clearly related to voluntary euthanasia, a coroner should consider and report on whether he/she believed the person was motivated to kill themselves while they maintained the capacity to do so, and that in all probability, if they believed they could lawfully receive assistance to end their life at some later point in time, the person may well have deferred their decision to die. It would seem this evaluation and conclusion could be undertaken under the 'why' heading in the list of objectives of the coroner.
Additionally, in the case of a violent suicide (e.g. firearm, hanging etc.) the coroner could also consider whether the act would likely have been less violent and thereby lessen the anguish for family and others involved in the aftermath, if the person had lawful access to a more tranquil way to take their own life.
Reports of double suicides, murder suicide or attempts at such actions are occasionally reported but may not be infrequent. Where these appear to be motivated by fear of losing control over end of life decisions a coroner could, as a matter of public importance, consider recommendations that will help prevent or reduce future deaths of a similar kind. It is surely in the public interest that violent suicides are reduced and rational suicide delayed, even if they cannot be prevented.
Rational suicide exists, it is time we acknowledged it officially, defined it and quantified it.
I appeal to you to consider establishing guidelines that would reveal the numbers of euthanasia suicides and make recommendations to reduce the adverse effects. A starting point might be the adoption of a common definition of rational suicide or euthanasia suicide. Coroners could also recommend Parliament, Government or a Law Reform Commission review the law on assisted suicide considering the reality of rational suicide. - Marshall Perron
I would urge all Queensland politicians to vote with your conscience and for the greater good and make voluntary euthanasia a reality in this state.
B. Ed, Dip. Teaching, Dip. Professional Counselling, Cert. IV Community Services, Cert. IV Training and Assessment, JP (Com. Decs)
Grey Army CEO Australia 1997
Grey Skills NZ Founder 1998-2001
BONZA Website Editor 2001-2020
Centrelink Personal Adviser 2002-2007
Maturelink Consultant Centrelink 2006-2007
Employment Adviser 2007- 2014
Mature Age Expo Organiser 2004-2007
Reinvent Your Career Key Speaker 2009-2010
How to survive on your Pensioner Income
Interesting how life changes when we become a pensioner and how much more careful you have to be with your money if you want to live as comfortably as possible in your golden years. We all miss that workplace income and find it difficult to survive without it.
The reality of life in 2018 is that the average woman lives to 84 and a man to 80. You need approximately $20000 a year to live comfortably as a single pensioner and around $35000 for a couple.
God knows we would all like more to do more financially but we are talking realities here as the pension is still around $20000 with no superannuation. Thank heavens I have some.
So how do you get your dollar to stretch more so you can make the eighties deadline (forgive the pun) in some style?
I am not going to go into specifics as we all have a different income, assets and budgetary requirements so I will generalise but the key is pensioner discounts.
I save hundreds of dollars a year now on some bills by using that ace when negotiating but you have to ask. One sentence is compulsory every time you are buying or financially planning- do you give age pensioner discount?
Rego, transport, electricity, water, rates, movies, take-way, coffee, medication, some shops ... the list is endless. There are around 8 million of us over 50 ... one third of the population and half of that 8 million over 65 so we are important to the economy and worth discounting.
My financial planning includes part pension, superannuation, part time work and DISCOUNTS. I am going okay and hope that will be the case until my deadline so do your most to benefit from being an age pensioner.
Happy golden years to us all.
Is their a Hidden Tax on Baby Boomer Super?
Went to visit the FIS (Financial Officer) at Centrelink about my superannuation.
Wanted to know if it was better to take it as a pension or withdraw the investment gain only as it accumulated and leave the lump sum there.
He advised me that the government take 15% of the accumulating investment each year as a tax without informing me and it is not recorded in the transactions on my super website home page.
His advice was to open another investment account with the Australian Super (minimum $50000) and use the current account as a pension account (must keep 5% in there) and withdraw a set amount regularly.
So talk to your super fund (mine confirmed that they do take the money each year without record (much to my dismay) but make a free appointment with the FIS first.
My super offered no advice when I spoke to them just confirmed that it was correct. You can pay for an appointment with one of their financial advisers if you like after the FIS appointment.
I still think it should be recorded somewhere that this amount is being deducted.
Bucket List Travel
A bucket list of things to do is a Boomer priority but there are moments when we will be challenged.
Where can Boomers travel in safety?
Just completed (Feb/March 2016)the Milford Track walk (over 100 000 steps on my Fitbit) and saw some pristine country that is hard to describe. A mixture of enchanted forest (everything covered in moss) to bubbling streams to rainforest ..all on day one. Then mountain terrain with huge boulders from the ice-age on day 2 and back to 21 km of first class scenery on day 3. Just marvellous..finished with a trip around the Milford Sound.
Put it on the bucket-list but you need some fitness and a wish to enjoy life. It is demanding and challenging but so enjoyable. The guides were non- intrusive but kept a well-oiled infrastructure working and at night you socialise with 50 others that share the experience with you (unless you want to be an independent walker and take in all your own resources) but I enjoyed a hot shower and comfortable bed.
Spent some time in the Northern Territory. My better half is very budget minded when we plan a holiday so I thought it might help others to pass on how we did it.
The Territory can be seen within a few days or a few weeks depending on what you have in mind.
There are two seasons- wet and dry- and you can forget touring in the wet season- Nov to Feb as even the markerts are closed and much of the area is shut down.
We hired a car to do it- Toyota Yarris- and it was a pleasure to drive. You don't need a four wheel drive unless you want off road but we did the triangular from Darwin to Kakado to Katherine to Darwin via Litchfield National Park and really enjoyed our holiday.
Hire the car through the NT Tourism site and you get unlimited mileage whereas it is restricted to a few hundred if you hire direct from the car rentals.
Loved Kakado for the scenery, indigenous heritage eg rock paintings and the Jabiru Tourist Park which was like and oasis with their lovely pool and dining outdoors.Had a meat lovers pizza with croc, buffalo and roo meat.
Katherine was dry but has a magic natural springs area which the City Council has developed and is worth a swim in the crystal clear water.
Katherine Gorge is unbelievable. Walk up to the lookout before you take the boat tour as it is breathtakingly beautiful from up there.
The boat tour is a must and the gorge itself is an Aussie treasure for its beauty and history. So old that there are no fossils as the earth didn't even have plant life then. Saw crocs bathing on the shore as we passed up the gorge.
Litchfield National Park is quite beautiful and has a pleasant walk to rock pools and outdoor camping. We stayed at Lake Bennett resort and were well looked after (even a huge cheese and nibbles platter to feed from as I watched the footie finals)
Darwin has Sunday food markets at Mindl Beach, the war museum, botanical gardens for many different plants (NT is really another world compared to other parts of OZ for plant life), outdoor movies, fantastic harbour precinct, great walks and bikeways and very friendly people.
Love you OZ.
All in all it was a great holiday and we also enjoyed Adelaide but will be back there when we do a campervan tour in September from Perth to Adelaide. More then.
ED Note (Feb 2018): More travel to Norfolk Island, the Ghan and WA and Lord Howe Island plus Ayers Rock in ' Don't you just love OZ' in the Funstuff site at top of page
Are you an Australian or Kiwi Baby Boomer with a story you'd like to share with our online community? Email our editor at firstname.lastname@example.org and you could have it published on BONZA.com.au!
Lots to do folks,so let’s get on with it in 2020 and have a BONZA LIFE!
( NB: BONZA is also an Aussie slang term for great or fabulous)
A lot of messages for those who suffer from Australian poet Jennifer Larmar-
Brian Murphy editor of BONZA and author of A BONZA LIFE introducing his book.
News Corp article 20.11.19
News Corp article about my book on boomers. Click on article.
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Annual National Thank a Cop Day
Police from Queensland who interacted with a school on their day this year.
Thursday September 19 2019 was National Thank A Cop Day. Students from our Primary AMP'd community service group visited Coomera Police Station with lots of cards and gifts to show their appreciation for all that the police service do to keep our communities safe. The students were also able to have a tour of the police station, have their fingerprints taken and to sit in a police car." - Report from school newsletter
What can you do on this day?
All we are asking is for you to say thank you to the police in your community.
Imagine a society without our police. I know the answer to that because we couldn’t function without them and the community would be in chaos. Yet we rarely get to thank them personally for what they do.
National Thank A Cop Day is your opportunity to make them feel valued and loved. On the 19th September annually is the community’s chance during Police Week to personally thank each and everyone of them.
It is not a day for them to march or parade or do anything else but their jobs. It is a community day when we say thank-you.
Stop them in the street and tell them you appreciate them, send flowers or a pizza to the local cop shop, shout them a coffee or just a simple thank you as you pass by them doing their job is a start, but it is up to each community or individual. I am sure you can make them feel loved in many ways, so we invite you to start planning and please let us know what you will do.
In recent times there is ample evidence that they are doing it tough as the job becomes more demanding and individuals lose respect for them and show it in aggressive ways.
They need more than receiving government medals and awards. I personally feel that our sincere thanks will mean more to them than any award without being disrespectful but that is just my opinion.
Could you please start planning what your community could do through your workplaces, organisations, sponsoring or highlighting the day so that we are all aware of it and respond accordingly on the day.
Start planning now or let others know about this very special day.
BONZA (Baby Boomers of NZ & Australia)
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The idea for a National Thank a Cop Day came from talking to a Police officer in McDonalds one morning and he mentioned that he was feeling very negative about the role and the lack of appreciation shown by the public for what they do. I really felt for him and decided that many of us just never get the chance to say thank you to them and we should make a day to do so.
Read full article here
BOOMER point of view - February 2020
I was thinking about my parents involvement in their grandkids lives when I became a parent( and remand so for 40 years) and it never seemed a problem. I never asked them to babysit because they didn't do that but they were always seen as grandma and pop in the family hierarchy. Is it as easy today?
This is an extract from Empowering Parents..seems today's parents aren't happy with us in general- Ed
Grandparents and Parents Disagreeing? 11 Tips for Both of You
By Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC
There’s a wonderful, special role that grandparents get to play within the family. Part of that role says that they have an extra bit of leeway with the grandkids—they might take them for ice cream or let them stay up a bit later when they visit, for example. Ideally, grandparents make life easier for the parents, and ideally, parents honor them and make them feel wanted.
Problems can arise when the grandparents interfere, intrude, or undercut what the parents are saying—or when parents forget to take the feelings of the grandparents into consideration.
Unsolicited advice is rarely welcome, and if it’s coming from one’s own parents or in-laws, it will most likely be heard as criticism.
Here are 11 tips for both parents and grandparents that can help clear up roles and responsibilities. Following this advice will help keep your family functioning well—not only in the now, but for generations to follow.
1. Assume the Best
If you’re a parent whose feeling like the grandparents have been stepping on your toes, start by trying to assume that they have the best intentions. Like all of us, they might make mistakes or be unaware of boundaries they’re crossing. Perhaps they feel unsure of what you want or don’t want from them. Let them know how they can be helpful to you. Help them feel included, important and needed.
2. Don’t Criticize
The number one rule of thumb for grandparents is, above all, don’t criticize. No one likes to feel judged or blamed, most of us become defensive and angry when criticized, and then we shut down. Think of it this way—who wants to be near someone who is always judging them? Instead of criticism, ask how you can be helpful. Focusing on the positive will do wonders for your relationship.
3. When a Boundary Has Been Crossed
Let grandparents know when they have stepped over a line that you’re not comfortable with, such as giving you unsolicited parenting advice. You can say, “I appreciate your expertise. I will definitely ask you if I need help.” Or “I know you may see it differently, but I’d appreciate you following the way I do it on this one.”
Give them a role so they feel they have a way to contribute. Invite them to your parenting classes or pediatrician if they’re having a hard time understanding how parenting and medical advice has changed. That way, they can ask questions and learn good ways to support you. This can solve a problem rather than lead to animosity between generations.
If a grandparent says something to the grandkids like, “Your parents don’t know what they’re doing,” or “I would never do it this way,” or to the parents, “C’mon, give them a break, you’re too strict with them,” they’re stepping over a boundary. If they’re openly saying to the parent, “I think you should do it differently,” or “This is how I would do it,” without being asked, they are also showing a lack of respect for your rules and ideas. That’s when you have to make sure, as a parent, that you are clearly stating your boundaries.
A phrase or slogan you could say to a grandparent when they’re undermining you might be, “I appreciate your concern or your worry. I’m comfortable with the way I’m doing it.” And the slogan you can say to yourself is, “This is about them, not about me.”
4. Unless Asked, Don’t Tell
Unsolicited advice is rarely welcome, and if it’s coming from one’s own parents or in-laws, it will most likely be heard as criticism. If you respect that boundary, you will probably be asked for your opinion, where you will be free to express your advice and wisdom—you will then have more of a chance to have some influence.
If you have a big concern that you feel can’t or shouldn’t be ignored, ask permission, speak to the proper person (it’s probably best to speak to your child) and don’t do it in front of the grandchildren. Use your tact and timing. Above all, never side with one parent or the other. Stay neutral and be careful not to talk badly about the other parent through gossip, commiserating or complaining about one to the other, no matter how tempting.
5. Don’t Get Stuck in the Middle
Don’t let your grandkids put you in the middle when they complain to you about their parents. They might tell you that their parents won’t buy them what they want or how they won’t let them have a sleep over. Just respond with empathy, but don’t take sides or down talk the parents. This will only lead to trouble.
6. Support Your Mate
Support your mate when it comes to parenting. You might have to tell your own parents to back off a bit and that they are intruding. While it’s important to get this point across, be sure to never make them feel like a burden. Communicate boundaries, but find ways to make grandparents also feel respected, honored and wanted.
Let’s say your husband doesn’t want your parents to overstay their welcome when they visit. While this is his issue, he also has to support you in having good contact with your parents. Both of you can decide what the boundaries are for you as a couple. Clear up your issues together first, make sure you’re not working this out in front of the grandparents or making them uncomfortable. Then communicate what you need or expect.
7. Define Yourself and Your Role
Be clear, honest and thoughtful about what you will and won’t do as a grandparent. Some grandparents feel they have already done the job of raising kids and don’t want to be called to babysit or be at every event. Others long for the invitation. Know what you are willing to do and not do and make this very clear. Communicating honestly will prevent difficult feelings down the road. If you live close by, are you willing to be called to pick up or drop off kids, babysit, called at the last minute, watch sports events? How often? Being clear about your role is better for everyone involved.
8. Unresolved Issues
Parents, if the role that you’ve played all your life in your family is no longer working, change it. Don’t spill your unresolved issues onto the next generation; work out the differences that are still affecting you. Recognize that it might be your own insecurity as a parent causing you to hear helpful advice or suggestions from the grandparents as criticism. If necessary, guide them to better ways of making suggestions that won’t leave you feeling undermined or criticized.
9. Stay in Your Own Box
Grandparents, make sure that by being helpful you aren’t being intrusive. Being a grandparent is such a joy, and it’s your chance to love your grandchildren and be the wise sage, the guide, and the teacher. Your goal is to be loving and supportive, not critical or overly judgmental. This will be best for you and for your children. Not only that, but you will be the joyful presence they will want to have around.
Be sure to fill your life with your many interests and goals beyond just being a grandparent. When you do this, you are taking responsibility for making your life full and complete so your kids or grandkids won’t feel they must do that for you.
Try and let go of expectations of how you want things to go or how you think things should go. Rather, take joy in how things are going. Don’t let expectations get in the way of enjoying and appreciating what is. If you think your daughter-in-law should be inviting you over more, rather than getting hung up on that, enjoy the events you go to. Always keep the communication open in order to work out differences.
10. Trust Your Kids to Parent Their Kids
Even if you don’t agree with what the parents are doing (as long as there are no health or safety concerns), trust them. Remember that you are not the parent, you are the grandparent. Getting in the middle of how your child and his or her mate are raising their kids will only cause problems. Keep in mind that the world has changed, and what worked years ago for you may not work very well now. If it helps, take some parenting classes or speak to a pediatrician to get some firsthand information.
Keep in mind that as a grandparent, even if you don’t agree, you have to go along with the rules. With medical or safety issues in particular, you need to defer to the parent. You can be curious, ask questions and talk about the issue in a respectful way. But your role is not to parent the child anymore—it’s to be the grandparent. Know where you end and they begin. Respect the boundaries and roles.
Love the grandkids unconditionally and be helpful to the parents rather than make things harder for them. And be compassionate with yourself when you mess up. No one’s perfect—not even Grandma!
11. Work to Make It Work
Most importantly, work to make this work. Parents need their parents, grandparents need their children and grandkids. This relationship is enriching for all and doesn’t last forever. Whether you live close or far away, make sure you find ways to make everyone a part of each other’s lives.
Happy New Year Boomers- I’m back for another year and enter my third decade doing Boomer tales information and adventures. I love doing it and would like to think it is worthwhile but as I have said each year, if one Boomer benefits then I will continue- Ed
Interesting break on the Mornington Peninsula near Melbourne in a little village called Rye. It’s the gateway to Nepean Point which is the Heads to Port Philip Bay and has some interesting history with the Harold Holt Memorial and the Quarantine station used since the 1800’s. We walked to the Heads after passing through the picturesque Portsea (full of McLarens, Lamborghinis and Bentleys) and parking at the Quarantine Station. Bushranger Bay is another beautiful spot to visit and walk down to the bay on the boardwalk. The colours are all Australian red, brown and greens with waves suitable for surfing.
Also forgot to take my phone so for the first time in a couple of decades, I have been out of contact. Strange feelings about it all with initial anxiety to freaking out period and then to gradual acceptance that there was nothing I could do to change the situation so move on. How did we cope before mobile phones?
As I travelled, I could not believe how much more we see without them. I was aware of my surroundings and enjoying the scenery while others were glued to their screens on buses, trains, planes and in the streets walking. They dominate our lives, but I can honestly say I didn’t miss it.
I look forward to a positive year with you all and will keep a balanced set of views and information that hopefully will be of interest to some of you for some of the time as we all know we can’t please all the people, all the time. Take care and have a great year living a BONZA life.
Please read the submission for the Public Hearing into Voluntary Euthanasia opposite. I was a speaker.
My Main Points:
It’s Never too Late to Learn
You ever wonder when we argue with people why we sometimes say the most inappropriate, immature and hurtful things? I have been having a good look in the mirror this year and I don’t like what I see. I am not focusing in the mirror on the many wrinkles and sagging muscles or the extra kilos that I am trying diligently to lose but more on my personality.
I want to change because my life is in turmoil at the moment and it can not continue like that. What makes people change I asked myself and the answer came in an old uni book by Thomas Harris- I’m OK- You’re OK?
I reread it and he focused on the fact that we are influenced by three innate personalities- the child, the parent and the adult and we have them all.
The child is the beliefs we computerised when we are in non-verbal stage as a baby and we take in our environment and its many sounds and structures. We are not OK at that stage as everyone else is Ok because we cannot comprehend what is going on so being not OK is there forever ingrained in us from birth and will cause much conflict in some lives.
The second phase is the parent when we are exposed to a huge collection of unquestioned and imposed external events and rules in the first five years and it is a unique period to us all as it is recorded by our brain but has yet to be verified.
Depending on the parenting style you encountered leaves this phase questionable on its value to you.
The final stage is on-going as we decide whether the data we have gathered from child, parent and real life is true or not and this is the adult personality doing its on-going role.
I am trying to keep this as simple as possible, so you want to keep reading but I think you should basically understand the three symptoms now and how they control us and where we gained them.
Back to the arguments we all have and our conduct. Example- “where is my blue shirt or have you hidden it somewhere again?” “You must be blind (comes the answer) it is in the cupboard with all the other clothes I have ironed in my spare time”. “Why do you have to be such a pain when I ask a question? Didn’t you ever learn manners?”
Both people in this argument are using childish language and some parent ones as in the ‘manners’ comment. It is the language of many a discussion/argument and controls you in that it is not the adult model Harris outlines which reflects I’m OK – You’re OK but more in this case of I’m OK- You’re not OK.
“The shirt has been ironed and in your cupboard.” “Thanks for that- I appreciate your hard work.” Adult talking to an adult. No messages, no sarcasm and no unhappiness about the language content and both are equal.
The method is called Transitional Analysis and it is explained simply in Harris’s book so have a read. I now have an answer to how I can change my life and why I would want to change by reading his book. Harris says that there are 3 reasons people want to change their lives- one is that they hurt sufficiently and are dreadfully unhappy in their lives. They are sick of making the same mistakes and the terrible consequences of those decisions.
Secondly is a slow type of despair called ennui or boredom. Looking for a what now opportunity because they are only existing and not really living a life.
The last thing is they suddenly discover that they can change and by using adult language in all they do will change them and their relationships. His book will explain more in depth for you if you are interested.
Probably all three for me- got some changes to make. Have a BONZA life!
Brian Murphy- Editor
Deja Vu All Over Again
One of those more interesting phrases used by our football commentators would describe what happened to me today. I dropped into my favourite coffee shop Jekyll and Hyde for the daily cappuccino (voted best coffee on the Gold Coast reads the sign over the counter) and I had a read of the free paper they supply.
Now I know tabloids are almost dead as was witnessed when I flew to Melbourne on the weekend. Ten years ago, there were newspapers being read all over the cabin and free ones as you boarded and discarded papers all over the seats as you left the plane. No more I am afraid so it’s like a trip into the past to be able to thumb through one and to be honest brings back fond memories.
My father read newspapers from back to front and then my mother would check out the advertisements and the death notices and engagements to see who had left us and who had taken the plunge into family life. Then it was birth notices and engagements, so the old tabloid got a good workout back in the day.
I am a slave to my phone now for ABC news, Huffington Post and other more credible media sources to flit through the news so times have changed. The six o’clock news is even off my list now as it’s all bad news.
Anyway, I am digressing. I was sitting drinking my coffee and relaxing when I realised Sonny and Cher were singing in the background music. Now the Jekyll and Hyde is a modern coffee shop run by a couple of switched on Kiwis and has ultra-modern décor to attract the younger crowd so I was a little confused but I overheard a conversation when someone asked why the choice of music and the answer was that it is better received by all as more relaxing.
My mind was wandering back to another time and thinking all things déjà vu when I recalled that my 24-year-old son told me recently that he had just completed listening to all the Beatle albums and to quote, “There is some great music in those albums dad”. As if I didn’t know being a number one Beatles fan but I never thought he would indulge, and I am also intrigued how well Bohemian Rhapsody was received in the cinemas lately. Queen were never as popular with my generation as they are with this one. For instance, after Sonny and Cher today came Queen’s anthem song from the film and the shop was rocking. Staff were singing, and customers were swaying to the music (my foot was tapping as I am not a performer…. well not much of one).
I am an optimist though and a raging idealist, so I can only hope that this fondness for déjà vu will take a huge step and impart on the next generations life and we can get away from reality TV, online games and egocentricity and find the old world of caring, supporting and talking to each other. Wouldn’t that be nice.
NEW GENERATIONS REQUIRE NEW LAWS TO REFLECT THE SOCIETY OF THE DAY.
My elderly mother in law had her phone cut off last week on the Monday by Telstra - her one source to the outside world cut off. She lives in community housing with no car and cannot, like many of her generation, grasp using a mobile phone.
After complaining to Telstra Customer Service, I was told she would be given medical priority as she is a risk from frequent falls and is currently suffering a black eye from one. She takes anti-depressants, blood thinners and various other medication. As a DV sufferer, she goes to a health professional to talk about her stress and post traumatic memories and they phone with appointments or she may need to phone us in an emergency.
Telstra were on to it immediately, I thought, and within two days I had my first response from them. Yes, the phone had been disconnected but to another provider because she had requested it to be done for NBN purposes. It was then explained to this reconnection technician that she would not have done that as the only reason she had a new link phone box was that Telstra had told her 12 months ago that if it was not installed she would lose her phone connection. (Rather psychic of them I mused)
Oh no, I was told, someone would have had to have her personal details and gone online to request the connection go to another provider otherwise it would be illegal. This woman has not installed Internet because it would be a waste of money as she would not use it, so I knew that what they were alleging was incorrect, but I was reassured that they have their top people on it and would be reconnected quickly.
I might add here that this ridiculous practise of having to verify your personal details when Telstra phone you is out-dated as it is a favourite scam now by criminals to pinch personal ID’s by phoning people and telling them that you are from the Tax Dept or Telstra and they require your details.
So, three days later an email is eventually sent by Telstra reconnections to say that the phone will be reconnected to unit 1 at her address, supposedly good news from them accept she lives in unit 8. After telling them the problem of the wrong address in the hope it was a typo, I was told they would investigate it, but we may have lost her connection to the new provider and they could not get it back unless she went into the nearest Telstra office and gave permission for it to be swapped back to her. I explained that she had not given permission for it to be disconnected so why would she need to give permission for it to be reconnected.
By Thursday I was worried as it was nearly the weekend and four days of investigation had not produced any results, but I was told, “we are working on it”. By Friday morning she went to her medical appointment but was told that it had been cancelled as they could not contact her to verify she was coming as is the usual practice. Telstra was told this but still could not promise that it would be reconnected or when it would be but were still giving it urgent attention.
Finally, a call late Friday from them came to explain that the phone could not be reconnected as it needed to have a modem now even for phone connection even though she was not going to have Internet installed. The Telstra NBN guys would contact this week to make an appointment and would install it and then reconnect the phone. It is Monday evening and still no call seven days later.
I would imagine you are speechless as I am. I have never seen such incompetence and is really neglect of the elderly which brings me to the topic of this article. New laws and services are needed for new generations. My wife and I have been conversing with Telstra but what about the millions of ageing Australians who would have no idea nor the skills to rectify such a monumental stuff up.
As BONZA has been highlighting for 20 years, there is no previous game plan for Ageing Australia as it is the first time in history that we have lived so long. Average age for death now is in its 80s so the laws and rules must be adjusted or rectified for mature people. Governments normally have some previous legislation or practices to refer to, so I get it- it is difficult for all, but we can’t keep this incompetence up.
We need better service from large companies like Telstra and even government centres like Centrelink. Several million elderly will never learn IT and that is a fact so should they be ignored. I think not. There must be trained mature age representatives across the spectrum of daily life who understand the needs of the elderly and can assist them genuinely and with patience and compassion as there will be one in four people who are mature aged.
Finally, there are many laws to consider changing for the elderly such as traffic, driving, security for women, ageism, elderly abuse for a start but the most pressing and important is voluntary euthanasia. We all deserve the dignity of knowing that when our time comes, we have a gathering of the clan to say our goodbyes if we wish and then press the button to end our time on this earth.
Push for some changes Boomers. We never accepted bloody-mindedness from governments in our youth so rekindle that passion now and press for change.
ACTIVE LISTENING AND PLANNING FOR A BETTER LIFE
I have always spent the last months of a year looking back on my achievements and challenges from that year both personally and in the workplace. Nothing is different now as we prepare to enter another year of work and family life.
Indeed, as a manager in the past, I sent at least a half day with staff in late November allowing them to highlight at a planning session, what they believed worked and what didn’t with our team in that previous 12-month period. I also encouraged in that planning and refection session for them to suggest ideas for the future and once we had collated those ideas then to decide which three would be the focus for the next year along with current practices that were working for them. This was accomplished by placing a 1, 2 and 3 preference beside the three they chose so that the most popular votes in terms of votes were accepted by all the team as our focus for the next year.
I know it worked for me and my teams in that they all felt strongly that they were being listened too and were part of a team focus during an individual feedback interview with them after the planning session. This allowed for a much happier and focused group who loved coming to work.
My family also were subject to somewhat the same process when we talked over the Xmas and New Year period so that we all had a say about what worked and what didn’t as far as activities, family chores, outings, budgeting and social interaction in the previous year and what we would like to keep or change in the new year.
We all need to take active listening (only one person speaks at a time) and planning very seriously in our home and work environments so that, as we enter a new year, it is with the passion and excitement that there will be change in some form, otherwise we are guilty of making the same mistakes and doing the same things each year which can only produce a boring and frustrated workplace or a bored family.
Strap yourself in because here we go into another year of intrigue, discovery, disappointments and gains in this game called life. Good luck all.
The Worst Time Is Xmas When You Have No Family Around You
Sandy is a Baby Boomer. She is 65, divorced with no children and lives alone in her unit she owns. Bonza asked her how she felt about her future knowing there will be hundreds of thousands of single women over 60 in Australia in the next decade who will become the focus for government concern about their futures and her first comment was how lonely it was around Xmas for her.
The government is already aware of the magnitude of the problems this group will bring and are planning ways to secure their safety, enable them to socialise, providing them with age care accommodation, allowing for their diverse health and fitness requirements but it is such a diverse group to plan for in reality.
Many, for instance, have never worked because they were stay at home mums, so they have no superannuation. (We all accept they worked very hard with daily family routines in this period of their lives but for no financial reward). Some of this group are already widows and struggling to make ends meet.
Those who have worked and are divorced may not own their home now and to remain financially viable over a few decades then you will need to.
At least they may have family to take them in in their declining years and care for them even if reluctantly.
Some have never had children due to medical reasons or by choice and will be ageing without any family support and living on the pension only.
Sandy spoke with us and gave us an insight into her anxieties and concerns knowing that her current situation may assist others with their plans and could also influence government thinking and policy as BONZA continue to advocate for all Boomers and for this we are very grateful.
She is also isolated in that poor fitness does not allow her to be involved in physical activities and some poor self-esteem means her face to face social life is minimal.
She visits her local restaurants for special dinners, consumes a little alcohol, is unfit and lonely and is also a prime target for unsavoury characters in the community whenever she is out and about.
It will only get worse as she ages and even though she is young at heart, her body will break down over the next decade as she enters her seventies.
Knowing all this, we asked her who will look after her and what are her options as she ages?
Sandy listed her future options and important plans as:
BONZA is aware that many over 50 establishments would be a suitable destination now while she is medically able and that would give her a social life with her peers, but she is reluctant after seeing their contracts.
The units in these establishments are expensive also so if she can’t afford one then maybe a shared house or unit with someone in the same situation where costs can be shared would be an option for her.
Woman should also talk to the Centrelink Financial Officer(FIS) about their finances, so they can ascertain what is available for them. It is a free service and will put your mind at ease.
She wants to maintain her independence by staying in her unit for as long as possible, so this must be respected as it is her wish and right.
Finally, it will become a government issue and priority in our opinion to build suitable aged care hubs where the women can be housed securely and maybe have medical centres attached for their long term medical requirements and include fitness classes, so people can stay healthier for longer.
Keep having a BONZA life Boomers because Ageing Australia will not be a bed of roses for many of us.
Brian Murphy- Editor
Move Baby Boomers to the Bush
An ABC report in October spoke of the governments wish to move migrants to the bush using some of the same material BONZA has been bleating about for 20 years (read the Intergenerational Reports on BONZA web site- very interesting planning research for our futures)
"The Federal Government's populist ploy to appear to be relieving Australian capital cities of their growing pains by forcing migrants to live in country towns is the wrong solution.
Read full BONZA article here
Aged Care Brutality
Thousands of you were upset by this picture of a lady allegedly attacked by staff in a nursing home that we placed on our FaceBook page and expressed your outrage.
There will never be a trial as she has dementia but I think we all saw a little of ourselves in this and have some concern for the future.
There will have to be repercussions..hopefully a Federal inquiry into the aged care industry and as an advocacy for all things about Boomers, BONZA encourages you to talk about how wrong it is to friends, family, social media and letters to the editor of your local media outlet....don't forget you members of parliament and don't give up..its your future so make a difference.
This is a story that happened in Spain on the 29 th May 2016. My mate Keith Blake was travelling with his wife Sally and he sent me this on Facebook. They were attacked by two young men.
" We have felt safe in Spain so far, having only seen one incident of pick pockets on the Metro. But today we were targeted.
We had been shopping and stopped at a little bar for a rest and a wine on the way home.
We then walked through The Ravel to the top end of our street, but just before we got there we were approached from behind by two young blokes offering discount tickets. I was carrying my camera in one hand and the shopping bags in the other but one of them thrust a card at me and I grabbed it.
He then grabbed me and swung his body around me, lifting my wallet from deep in my front pocket. In one move he swung around, still holding on to me and passed it to his mate.
This is where they came unstuck.
Sally was beside me and immediately put the second guy in a headlock, and screamed "Thief, Thief!".
I flung the first guy off me and grabbed my wallet out of the hands of the guy in the headlock. No. 1 thief scurried off and so did No 2 when Sally released her grip.
People came running to see if we were alright, but they should have been more concerned for the two would be thieves.
Never pick on two grey haired Aussies, especially when one is Super Sally! Lesson learned for two young tearaways!!
Boomer Reunions.. Is it Time for Baby Boomers to Reminisce?
BONZA organised a high school reunion around 10 years ago and we had 600 fellow high school Boomers attend..just for the one school Indooroopilly High in Brisbane but it was great to invite 10 odd years of ex-students as you saw faces from the years before and after your year..ex army cadet leaders, prefects and sportsmen and woman who made school life so vibrant. Ex teachers were also invited and many were cheered as they spoke to the crowd.
I really enjoyed it and recommend it to you all..gather some ex classmates and reminisce to your hearts content.
In the last 10 years I have tracked down and met many old friends who I had lost contact with in the frantic pace of life for coffee..work and raising kids in particular use up so much of our lives and I felt a need to see them again.
Read full article here