Interesting how life follows a certain pathway for us in the journey of life from birth to death. We spend our younger years and youth with our family. Parents, grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins and siblings combining and interacting to give us great memories of Christmas, birthday parties, family gatherings and bar-b-ques plus family milestones such as 21st and weddings.
The over-whelming development years during teenage friendships when you learn the facts of life through the eyes of your peers. Music, clothes, art, relationships all change your cognitive and affective outlook on life dramatically and friendships are forged for life and then breaking away to live our own lives with our own immediate family and a new long term partner. The pattern is repeated with the birth and growth of our own children and their milestones through birth, beginning to walk, new teeth, school days, school achievements, school and neighbourhood friends, teenage years, sporting achievements, girl and boyfriends and then the family milestones again- reliving your own life through them. We make new friends through our children and the activities we pursue to give ourselves some independence from the demanding role of parenting.
How much I enjoyed this part of my life. Watching each of my four beautiful children develop into mature, well educated and worthwhile adults who will all make a difference to the world in their own way. The friends I made on that journey where praiseworthy and will never be forgotten as long as I live. Enjoying the company of my partners was also wonderful in the way we supported each other in the thankless role of parents. The extended family deserves a mention as well because they were there for my family and we were there for theirs. What a delightful group of nieces and nephews I have because of that support. I love all my family and friends.
Life races by and before we know it we are faced with our golden years. After retirement, we seem to be outcast by our families in that they do the same as the workplace does and label you as aged and not as functional. We then seem to revert to our siblings and enjoy their company again after all the years you have forsaken them for your immediate family and new friends you met on that journey of life.
I am currently really involved with my siblings through overseas trips and weekly phone texts and am really finding them close to me again. I know as I deteriorate with the process of ageing, they will be always there unconditionally for me as your immediate family take on the responsibility of their own families and the responsibilities of parenting them.